December 2025

Could you tell us a little about yourself?

I’m 35, work as a guidance counsellor and live in Copenhagen with my partner.When I’m not spending time on one of too many small house projects, I like to spend time outside, biking around the city, gaming with friends and (with mixed success) work on improving my drawing skills. I’m a bit of an introvert and spend a lot of time in my own head – so more of a listener//thinker than the focal point of the conversation. I’m mainly a rigger, but have tried out being the model as well. Experience-wise, I would place myself as an intermediary – I know the basics, and some suspensions,. but I’m not yet at a level where I feel safe at taking on more advanced ties. 

When did you first encounter rope?

I’ve been into kink for many years, and also before I got into rope. So I regularly came across rope in online forums, but I think my first personal encounter with rope was at Erotic World in Valbyhallen, which had a stand with a rigger tying a model. It wasn’t until quite a while later, with a previous partner, that I started a bit experimenting with rope at home as a “rigger” (it was very basic at the time). It didn’t really catch on at first, but my interest was piqued and when I met my current partner, who had prior experience, we started exploring it further and going to shibari-classes.

What’s your favourite/funniest/best memory of tying or being tied?

One of my favourite moments of tying, is from one of the first times my current partner and I started tying together. I did a few ties on her on the bed in her apartment. The ties themselves weren’t particularly advanced – I was just starting out as a rigger and this was before I had taken any proper classes. We did a mermaid tail-like tie and a simple version of a futomomo, and played a bit around with tugging at the ropes and lifting her the slightest bit above the bed. Looking back at it, I didn’t really have proper idea of what I was doing, but the reason I remember it so fondly is because it was one of the first times that I got to experience for myself the types of feelings, sensations and connections that tying can evoke. It got me hankering for more.

What’s something you’d tell people just getting started or might be curious about rope?

Keep it simple and focus on the connection. I remember getting fascinated by all the complex ties I saw and how I wanted to try them out as soon as possible. But I also recall how quickly I ended up overthinking, trying to get to grips with ties I didn’t have the skills or experience for. Apart from the safety aspect, the thing that in retrospect stood out to me is how getting caught in my head pulled me out of the situation and the connection with my partner. Being an overthinker to begin with didn’t help, and I still get caught in my head from time to time, but at the same time I have come to appreciate how far you can get with very little. Some of the best sessions I have had have been with, perceptively, simple ties, where I instead managed to focus on the connection with my partner. 

Would you like to tell us about any hopes, dreams or goals you have for your rope life? Anything you are really looking forward to?

I want to improve my ability to retain the connection with my model, even as the ties get more advanced. So for now, my goal is rather basic: To continue working on my fundamentals, so I can spend less time worrying about the technique and more time being in the moment.